s for the victims of domestic violence

If a partner or an ex makes you feel scared, controlled or intimidated, you may be experiencing domestic abuse.

There are many different forms of abuse. It can be physical or it can be emotional, and it may have impacts that can or cannot be seen by other people.

Abuse can happen to anyone at any age and in any type of relationship. It can happen to adults and it can happen to teenagers. You don’t have to be married or living with your partner for them to act abusively towards you.

What are the types of abuse people experience?

An abusive relationship is where one person uses abuse to control and have power over their partner in an intimate relationship. Types of abuse include:

• Physical abuse
• Emotional abuse
• Online abuse
• Sexual abuse
• Economic (financial) abuse
• Digital abuse

Coercive control is another type of abusive behaviour. This is when a boyfriend or girlfriend, partner, husband or wife, or ex uses an ongoing pattern of controlling, coercive and threatening behaviours to trap the person in a relationship. A person experiencing coercive control may also change their routines and lose with family and friends. Coercive control can make it impossible or even dangerous to leave an abusive relationship.

What are my options if I am in an abusive relationship?

Recognising that you are being abused is an important step. You may feel you need time to think about your situation. Or perhaps you have already made up your mind to end the relationship or to leave. Whatever you decide, your safety (and that of your children if there are any) is always the priority.

If you are being subjected to abuse by a current or former partner, you can get legal protection through the courts. The main kinds of protection available are safety, protection and barring orders.

What do each of the domestic violence court orders cover?

A Safety Order is an instruction from the court which stops the person accused of abusive behaviour (the respondent) from committing further violence or threats of violence. The respondent does not have to leave the home.

If the person is not living with you, the safety order prohibits (bans) them from watching or being near your home and following or communicating (including electronically) with you or a dependent person such as a child. A safety order can last up to five years.

People in an intimate relationship are also able for apply for a safety order. Previously, couples had to cohabit (live together) to be able to get a safety order, but this is no longer the case.

A Barring Order is a full or long-term order from the court. It directs the respondent to leave - or stay away from - your home and any dependent children. In some cases, it can direct them to stop using - or threatening to use - violence against you or putting you in fear. It may also direct them to stop following you, or communicating verbally or electronically with you or dependent children.

It can only be issued to current spouses or civil partners, or certain people who have an equal or greater ownership rights in the home than the respondent. Parents can apply when the ab is a non-dependent child

While you are waiting for the court to decide on your application for a Safety or Barring Order, the court can give you an immediate temporary order called a Protection Order or an Interim Barring Order.

A Protection order has the same effect as a Safety Order but because it is only intended to last until the court decides on your case, it is temporary. An interim Barring Order lasts for a maximum of eight working days

What is Domestic violence leave?

Since November 27, 2023, you have a legal right to five days of paid domestic violence leave, if you need to take time off work because of domestic violence and abuse. This could be for medical visits, legal proceedings, counselling, looking for other accommodation or accessing domestic violence services.

The leave can be taken where you are directly experiencing domestic violence and abuse, or where you are ing a ‘relevant person’. A ‘relevant person’ can be your:

• Spouse or civil partner
• Someone you live with
• Someone you are in an intimate relationship with
• Child who is under 18
• Another dependent person

Are you concerned about someone you know?

You can take some basic steps to help and a friend, family member, colleague, neighbour or anyone who confides in you that they are experiencing domestic abuse. You can offer emotional and you can offer practical . There are a number of organisations and s.

West Cork Beacon provides a safe, confidential, non-judgemental, trauma informed, free service for women experiencing domestic abuse and for anyone experiencing sexual violence. Their freephone help-line 1800 203136 is available for women to call Monday to Friday, 9am to 4.30pm. Their website is www.westcorkbeacon.ie

Womens Aid have a national freephone helpline 1800 341 900 available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The Men’s Development Network operates the National Male Advice Line on 1800 816 588 for men experiencing or who have experienced domestic violence.

Further information on this and other topics is available from Cork City Centre CIC in Cornmarket Street, open to the public on Mondays, Tuesdays, Thursdays and Fridays from 9.45am to 12.30pm and Wednesdays from 2pm to 4pm, Tel 0818 07 6950 (Lines open Mon-Fri 10am-4.30pm). For more, go online at www.citizensinformation.ie